Kids & Sleep Problems: How to Cope When You Are Your Child’s Only Respite by Carrie Watts

3 years ago
Kids & Sleep Problems: How to Cope When You Are Your Child’s Only Respite

My youngest son has never slept easily. Before we got him medicine, he’d only sleep 20 minutes at a time. It’s unknown why, though it’s possibly related to the difficult pregnancy I had with him. Whatever the cause, he has only slept when pressed firmly up against another human – and that human had to be me.

There wasn’t much joy to find in these night-long battles; it was arduous and painful in so many ways. Just before he turned 3 years old, it led to a complete breakdown in my ability to cope with everyday life. That’s when I realized I had to change my mindset. As overwhelming as it was – and still is – what helped was to stop focusing on the battle and reframe it, so I felt I achieved something every night. I did that by:

  • Reminding myself he physically needed me; he wasn’t being difficult.
  • Slowing my breathing and guiding him to match my rhythm, to find peace.
  • Recognizing that I am his “safe place.” Just being near me is enough to let him feel safe and secure.

I count myself lucky that I can give him rest when nothing else in this world can. And at the end of the day, who can complain about hugging their baby to sleep?

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You’re a great mom!
Carrie Watts
Thank you so much. :-)
Elisa A. Schmitz 30Seconds
Parenting isn’t easy. You are doing an incredible job. Keep on being the amazing mom you are, Carrie Watts ! 💗
Carrie Watts
You are very right. There are many words that describe parenting, but "easy" isn't one of them. ;-) Thank you for your kind affirmation. Like many other mothers, I just keep on keeping on. :-)

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