Not Sure How to Be Happy? Here's Why It's OK to Be Happy(ish) by Jessica Lawrence

5 years ago

Not Sure How to Be Happy? Here's Why It's OK to Be Happy(ish)

I once had a therapist who absolutely changed my life. I met her shortly after leaving my ex-husband, and despite the fact that I had seen other therapists before, Sally was the one who made me see things crystal clear. I can remember one of the first questions she asked me: "Jessica, what makes you, you?" 

I sat, wondering how to answer. My first reply? "Gabby's mom." It was not what she wanted. I left that day and did some deep thinking. Who was Jessica, and what made her happy?

Over the course of the year, Sally and I met weekly. She listened to me, watched me cry and helped me realize something very important: You can't lose who you are, just because you are now a mom, a wife, a leader, etc. It is important to do things that make you happy – even if they are temporary. Whether it is having an extra scoop of ice cream or dating someone who may not be long term, find what makes you happy and live in the present.

Hey, Sally? Thanks for showing me the light.

Pro Tip: Your mental heath is very important.

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Elisa Schmitz
This is SO insightful, Jessica Lawrence . I think many moms would reply the same way you did, to that question. Our identities become wrapped up into our children. We can't lose ourselves. And you are so right - mental health is key. We need more awareness and openness about that!
Ann Marie Patitucci
I love this, Jessica Lawrence . You're so right about us being caught up in our identities, especially as moms. Thanks for sharing this with us!

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