Single Moms: Good Choices Vs. Bad Choices in Parenting (and Dating) by Jessica Lawrence

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2 years ago
Single Moms: Good Choices Vs. Bad Choices in Parenting (and Dating)

I constantly remind my daughter to "make good choices." Whether it is eating something a bit more healthy than her preferred ice cream sandwich, or doing homework before playing with her American Girl dolls, I often feel like I'm a broken record. Which made me think – am I always making the best choices?

A prime example is dating. If you've read what I've written before, you already know I am a single mom. I am the first to admit, I don't always make the right choices when it comes to dating. Ask any of my friends and they'll agree. However, I remember my grandmother telling me once that she would rather I date several people over time vs. settle for one who really isn't what I want at all.

The flip side of the coin is dating people who I know I can't "fix," which I think is something that is common with most women. Whether the person has a drinking issue or commitment issues, I want to be that person who makes them better.

Sadly, we all have to be responsible for our own selves. So, I try to help my daughter make good choices when it comes to her life and continue to plug forward on my own (sometimes not so good) choices.

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Dawn Taylor
Hi , Jessica! A Canton gal like me! (you'll know me from SLU) When I read this I saw myself! And I agree with grandma! " I would rather have 30 minutes of wonderful than a lifetime of nothing special" (steel magnolias) I just spent almost two years on and off with a great (much younger) guy that I knew was not going to be long term- he was awesome- BUT I do not regret a single moment. :) I will NEVER settle and my kids see a strong, happy single mom who doesn't need a man.
don't say that! everything will be fine! you are sure to meet your man! Now there is a lot of opportunity to get acquainted, especially on the Internet
That's right, do not despair! Now there are so many dating sites that you will not be left without a man, I assure you. But you must decide for yourself what you want. I was in a similar situation, but then I found out about site AdultFriendFinder which is one of the best adult dating sites on the Internet, and it has held this high position for a very long time. You can watch a review of it here and the world shone with new colors. I found a man to meet for sex, maybe you should try to do it. A woman needs sex no less than a man.
Elisa A. Schmitz 30Seconds
The struggle is real, Jessica Lawrence ! I was a single mom for a few years and I know of that which you speak! We make the best choices we can and keep in mind that we are the ultimate role models for our kids. Not easy but necessary. And I hear you, too, Dawn!

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