Should Parents Force Their Kids to Share? Here's What I Think... by Jill Ceder, LMSW, JD

7 months ago
Should Parents Force Their Kids to Share? Here's What I Think...

Many parents force their kids to share, but this method can send a bad message. Instead, I feel parents should:

  • Provide language and tools to handle situations. We should model patience and provide appropriate language to ask for a toy and accept the response if your kid has to wait his turn. 
  • Teach kids to advocate. By teaching kids to ask kindly, advocate for themselves and work things out with other kids, we are teaching important life skills. If we are always jumping in, kids lose the ability to learn from the experience. 
  • Encourage self-regulation. Children should be able to play freely, feel fulfilled by their experience and then be able to give the toy over when they are finished. This method encourages self-regulation, self-discipline and the ability to know when one is feeling satisfied. 

Teaching your child how to ask for a turn, how to to wait and how to take turns is a learning experience. So what do you think?

Elisa All Schmitz 30Seconds
Interesting perspective, Jill Ceder, LMSW, JD ! Never thought about it this way, but makes total sense!
Michele Lengerman
This is so hard and completely my life right now. I try not to push too hard when he's using something and doesn't want to hand it right over. But when he starts grabbing things away from other kids and saying "mine" my instinct is always to step in and talk about waiting for our turn.

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