Ohana Means Family: How to Bring Back the Ohana Without Sacrificing Yourself by Morgan Hawthorne
Let's talk about the true meaning of "ohana." Ohana is known in Hawaiian culture as loving your family no matter what. Just love them. No matter what. It seems so simple, doesn't it? Yet so many adults just can't conceptualize and follow through with that. Let's bring back ohana!
Don't send hateful things to your family, don't attempt to break them down and don't say horrible things to someone that you know you will regret later. If your family hasn't acknowledged you in more than a year and it's very clear that reconciliation is just not possible, however, you must exit stage left. Not only is it common sense, but it's self-preservation at its finest to love toxic family from afar.
No longer will I even acknowledge family members who intentionally break me down, but I will always love them even if it isn't reciprocated. I love the family that I have, and that's all that I need in my everyday life. I now, for the first time in forever, love myself enough to not allow anyone to treat my family or myself that way anymore.
Let's learn to love ourselves and the rest will follow ... eventually!