I'm Married ... Now What? Understanding & Building Intimacy With Life Strategist Coach Leona Carter! by Renee

All forms of intimacy are important and are needed to keep a relationship strong. Intimacy is a vital part of staying connected no matter if you are newly married, just starting a new relationship or are in a long-term relationship. The need for intimacy and closeness with others is obvious, but how to nurture and build intimacy is not. 

Leona Carter is an international empowerment speaker, best-selling author, life strategist and talk show host. She empowers women to makeover their relationships by building long-lasting intimacy. Leona helped us learn how to nourish our relationships!

Q: How long have you been married and what started the journey for helping other wives?

"I married my high-school sweetheart almost 24 years ago! Early in my marriage, I realized I struggled with intimacy issues, but I did not know exactly what that meant. I had a great husband but didn’t understand why I lacked a normal sex drive to respond to him as eagerly as he responded to me. I knew something wasn’t right, but I also felt like I was the only one dealing with this struggle."

I think this is very typical. We feel alone but there are others out there going through and feeling the same! #30seconds

— Renee (@HerrenRenee) May 23, 2019

Q: Did this put a strain on your marriage?

"Yes, this put a huge pressure on our marriage. As a young woman, I didn’t know I could talk to someone. I did not know who to talk to. It felt so personal to me I didn’t think anyone else was dealing with the same thing I did."

Some women can blink and they are in the mood but even that won't last forever. #30Seconds #marriage #relationships #intimacy #heycoachcarter

— Hey Coach Carter (@heycoachcarter) May 23, 2019

Q: What happen that made you realize you may need help?

"One year, sex became painful and I consulted my doctor. It resulted in 10 weeks of physical therapy to reshape my pelvic floor. Having a conversation about my personal issues with my doctor brought awareness that I was not alone. My doctor stated some of the commonalities that other women have, too. A few years later, I experienced pain again during sex and this time it resulted in a full hysterectomy. I began to realize that my body does not respond like others. I knew I was, as I like to put it, uniquely wired."

I was so busy making sure I got "sex" right I had no clue I needed to build intimacy. #30Seconds #marriage #relationships #intimacy #heycoachcarter

— Hey Coach Carter (@heycoachcarter) May 23, 2019

Q: After years of dealing with various challenges, how did you begin to build intimacy with your husband?

"One evening we had a heated argument and words were said and feelings got trampled on and I knew I had to do something. I talked to counselors, sex therapists and relationships coaches. I started having conversations with my husband about sex and stopped expecting him to know how I was feeling. I began to paint a clearer picture for him to see. We had to be intentional about scheduling date night."

Date night with @dieteraschmitz is my favorite night of the week! :-) #30Seconds

— Elisa All Schmitz (@elisatalk) May 23, 2019

Q: How do you help women create intimacy with their companion and build stronger relationships?

"I created an online course called, The Wedding Night: Five Questions You Were To Afraid To Ask Then But Are Ready To Ask Now. I outline five questions that, maybe if I had the guts to ask on my wedding night, I could have cleared up some things WAY earlier. But honestly, when is the RIGHT time to ask the hard questions? I help women have the hard conversation with their husbands through videos and focus questions. There is not much help to understand how to bridge the gap from virtuous to sensuous."

So true.......sometimes you have to break out of the ruts you've fallen into #30seconds #heycoachcarter

— 🌷Toni B 🌷 (@rychepet) May 23, 2019

Q: Are there many women that struggle with building intimacy with their husbands?

"Yes, many women struggle with intimacy and the divorce rate is above 50 percent. During my market research, I heard from over 200 women in a seven-day period sharing how they, too, struggle with building intimacy with their husbands. The problem is common, but talking with someone about it is less common. I have to focus on not just connecting physically with my husband. I had to teach myself and then teach my husband how to make love with our clothes on. Our emotions had to first be connected. There were times I would be physically connected, but my emotions were nowhere to be found."

Let me know when you have your own language! We have code words and use other words that only we use #30seconds #heycoachcarter

— 🌷Toni B 🌷 (@rychepet) May 23, 2019

Q: What is one of the most important questions covered in your course, The Wedding Night?

"'How often are we going to have sex?' This was a question in the back of my mind when I first got married. I thought spouses were expected to have sex every day. I was a young bride. I now understand the frequency is about your ability to communicate your needs. When we assume, well you know what they say about ass-u-me. Rather than going off misguided information I gave myself, I now communicate with my husband. It’s so much easier that way!"

I told my husband ten years ago that I should write a book about this because this conversation NEEDS to be HAD. hahahah #30Seconds #heycoachcarter

— Hey Coach Carter (@heycoachcarter) May 23, 2019

Q: How can people learn more about you and your services?

"You can learn more about me on Twitter at @heycoachcarter (my handles across social media platforms). You can also learn more about me at HeyCoachCarter.com and click “WIVES” for a free guide to building intimacy with your husband. And be sure to read my 30Seconds tips!"

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