Parents, My Teenagers Aren't Popular & I'm Glad! Here's Why! by Heather Holter
Growing up I was not popular, always felt left out and wanted to be popular. I was teased in junior high. In high school that had ended, but I still was not popular. I had a group of friends but I was not part of the "in" crowd.
When I became a mother I wished for my kids to be popular as teens. So whenever I have a kid start junior high I always asked them if they were popular. When I asked my son he said he wasn't, but that it didn't bother him. "OK, so I still have more chances to have a popular kid with the other four kids," I sadly thought.
Recently, I asked my daughter if she was popular and she said no. "Oh, sad. Why not? You are an amazing kid," I said. She replied, "Mom, I have plenty of friends, I am just not popular, and I don't want to be. It's fine. Really. When you are popular there is a constant expectation to do everything right, say the right things, wear the right clothes, talk to the right people and be in the right activities. You can't just be who you are and do what you want. If I was popular I would always be living in fear of making a mistake. I don't need that kind of pressure."
Wow, this girl is smart! I never thought of it that way. Now I'm glad my kids aren't popular, not sad!