Setting Boundaries & Self-care: 4 Key Questions to Help You Set Boundaries & Meet Your Own Needs by Jennifer Coken

When we don’t set boundaries, often the person we most disappoint is ourselves. I used to disappoint myself a lot. Now, I don’t do any meetings or coaching calls before 10 a.m. As I’ve said to more than one person, “I’m not ready for prime time before then.” So, what happens before 10 a.m?

• I meditate for 20 minutes.

• I make my Keto coffee, and while drinking it, I journal for 20 to 30 minutes.

• I write for an hour.

• I have an accountability call with a partner that has been happening for two years.

• I have a creation call with a partner that has been happening for 14 years.

I used to feel guilty about taking “all of that time” for me. But now I know when I don’t, I feel out of sorts and I’m less effective at my job. Here are some key questions to ask yourself:

• Who do you most need to set boundaries with? (Make a list, if needed.)

• Where do you need to set boundaries with yourself?

• If you say "yes" to that, what will you say "no" to, and vice versa?

• What are the biggest things that stop you from setting and holding boundaries?

Choose you! What three boundaries could you set to ensure your needs are met?

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