5 Things I Learned After the Loss of a Friend From Suicide by Lindsay Gerszt

5 Things I Learned After the Loss of a Friend From Suicide

Two years ago I lost my dear friend, Naomi Knoles, from suicide. I met Naomi when we interviewed her for "When The Bough Breaks," a documentary about postpartum depression. Naomi suffered from postpartum psychosis and ultimately took her daughter's life. After spending 10 years in prison for her crime, she also took her own life. Her story is a tragic one and changed my life forever. This is what I learned after Naomi lost her battle with depression:

  • Do not blame yourself. There was nothing YOU did that would have caused someone to harm themselves.
  • Never judge anyone. We all have our demons, just some are more visible than others.
  • Always be kind. You never know when someone needs encouraging words, an ear to be heard or even just a smile from you.
  • Show support to their family and friends. They need it and not just right after the tragedy.
  • Share their story! We have to keep their memory alive. Others WILL learn from their struggles and pain. Sharing their story may save someone's life.

Everyone has a story to tell and a story worth sharing!

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Elisa All Schmitz 30Seconds
I am so sorry for your loss, Lindsay Gerszt . I cannot imagine the pain. Thank you for sharing this very personal, and very important, message. We can all learn from you and do more to help, even if that means just a smile or kind word. So glad you are part of our tribe! {{HUGS}}
Stephanie Cannoe
Lindsay Gerszt I know this heartbreak. When I was 8 months pregnant for my second son, my best friend committed suicide and spent her last day with me. A factor in my PPD diagnosis. The guilt is har, so I could not agree more strongly - do not blame yourself. Easier said than done. Thank you for sharing her story.
Lindsay Gerszt
Stephanie I'm so sorry for your loss as well. It's so hard to come to terms with it. I think the guilt is extremely difficult and we have to keep reminding ourselved that there was nothing we could have done.... I knew something was wrong when I hadn't heard from her in a while. She always called or sent me a text and was soooo excited that Brooke Shields had signed on for the film. Thank you for sharing as well!
Stephanie Cannoe
That's the heartbreaking part, you feel it on some level. So important to share. Thank you.
Ann Marie Gardinier Halstead
Lindsay, I'm so sorry for your heartbreaking loss. Thank you for sharing these important and helpful words with us. I'm so happy that you're part of our tribe. I have no doubt that you will inspire and help many people in our community.
Lindsay Gerszt
Thank you @amghalstead. I appreciate your support. So happy to be here.
Kim Kusiciel
Lindsay Gerszt, this is just an unimaginable loss. I am so sorry you lost a friend, but I am so proud of you and your team for sharing her story and educating others. I am so glad you are here and spreading the good word. Here is a pin you can use and share to continue to promote the lessons you have learned. Lots of love to you. www.pinterest.com/pin/17831446...
Lindsay Gerszt
Thank you Kim! I really appreciate this. Because of 30 Seconds sharing this on Pinterest I have just started a When The Bough Breaks pinterest page. I truly appreciate your support! xo
Elisa All Schmitz 30Seconds
Thank you, Kim Kusiciel , for the wonderful pin for Lindsay Gerszt 's amazing post. This is just another example of why #30Seconds tribe is simply the best. Thank you both for making life better - you make a difference to me and so many!!!
nisacool
Naomi's story was so heartbreaking. I couldn't stop the tears from coming as she told her story in the doc. I was crushed when I saw that she died. I can't imagine the guilt she felt. The one thing that stood out to me was that she was alone. In what other country are single moms with infants who have to work full time excepted to tough it out alone. I am also a single mom, but I was lucky to live with my parents w my daughter from birth to age 5. I can honestly say that it was this factor and the grace of God that my daughter and I are okay today. RIP Naomi- you'll never be alone again sweety.
Lindsay Gerszt
Thank you for your comment. Naomi was a truly beautiful person. Her pain ran deep and her story will help so many. I will keep sharing it in hopes that every time someone will learn from it. ❤️
Hector Belardo
Heartbreaking. I wept thinking about my wife and others. I'm sorry for all who were hurt by the loss.
Hector Belardo
I'm so sorry for your loss Lindsay. You are making a difference . . . saving lives and families. Thank you.
Lindsay Gerszt
Thank you Hector. I know you understand and I am sorry for all you have been through. Together we all can make a difference.
Molly Laird
You truly are making a difference. Thank you for sharing her story, your story and all your advice. You are a beautiful person.
Lindsay Gerszt
Thank you Molly. I appreciate you writing and your words. They mean so much to me.

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