Sadness During the Holidays: People Most Likely to Suffer the Holiday Blues & How to Help by Dr. Sanam Hafeez
With the holidays upon us, it’s easy for us to get caught up in the rush of it all. While we may be cooking, shopping, enjoying holiday events, there are others, many of whom are in our very own circles, having a tougher time. Here is who is the most likely to have the holiday blues and how we can help them make it through.
The Newly Divorced or Widowed
Loss is a sad, life-changing event at any time of the year. However, it tends to be harder when everyone around you is joyful celebrating the holiday’s and you feel it’s an effort to get out of bed. If someone in your circle is going through a major loss and life transition, be supportive and understanding. They are grieving and mourning and are especially sensitive around the holidays. It’s important that they feel included but don’t be offended if they choose to opt-out of certain events. I suggest checking in and offering them the option to participate in whatever they want when they want. Love them through it.
The Busy Entrepreneur
The holidays can be stressful for small business owners because so much rides on the end of year. They may be fretting over their profits (or lack thereof), the goals they didn’t reach, and the many things still to do. They feel overwhelmed and when they are expected to shop, entertain and be present for their families, they may be short tempered and anxious. The best way to help the busy entrepreneur is to make their life easier in any way possible. If they can’t make it to a family dinner, tell them your door is open for dessert. Often they feel guilty and obligated which only adds to their frustration. Also, consider that these worker bees are conflicted. When they are working they miss their families and when they are with family they are thinking of work.
The Caretaker of an Elder Parent or Relative
Adults who are now caretakers for their elderly parents are incredibly overwhelmed and often overlooked. As a caretaker, they always have to consider the well-being of their parent. They can’t just get up and go. Caretakers may feel resentful, isolated and stuck during the holidays which leads to conflicted feelings of resentment and guilt. They also believe they have to be hands on managing everything. It’s important to lighten the caretakers' load by offering support even if it means asking them how they are doing. Be patient and ask the caretaker what they need. It could be as simple as having food delivered to their home to free up time for other tasks.
The Recovering Substance Abuser
Recovering from addiction is hard. Period. But it’s harder when holiday festivities are filled with friends and family drinking everything from eggnog to champagne. Understand that those in recovery from substance abuse are hyper-sensitive about being judged. They feel as if all eyes are on them and that pressure may trigger the desire to use drugs or alcohol to soothe their anxiety. When they aren’t fully recovered, they may anticipate possible “landmines” and avoid them. They may choose to keep to themselves and observe more and participate less. They might opt out of larger family gatherings that are too overwhelming. Offer an open invitation and remind them they are welcome when they are ready. A balance of love, support and acceptance is what they most need.
The Children of Divorce
Divorce means two separate holidays at two different places and kids feel overwhelmed having to double up. It’s incredibly important for parents to agree on where the kids are going during the holidays and all logistical details. Kids want to feel safe and secure. They don’t want to feel as if they are expected to be rushed here and there because their parents chose to divorce. It could be unsettling to younger kids, and teens may isolate and rebel against family events as they are sorting out their own emotions and getting used to a new normal. You really want to establish a game plan for the holidays and if possible, stick to it every year.
Someone Unemployed or Recently Terminated From a Job
As a friend or family member of that person, you certainly do not want to make them feel like a “charity case” as their pride has likely already taken a beating even if being unemployed is no fault of theirs. Try to phrase invitations in such a way that it seems that they are “making you happy” by coming or if you give them gifts remind them of previous times when they got you X or Y. Try to do as much as you can to make their holiday festive in a way that is subtle so that the person does not feel belittled in any way. Remember, they are much more apt to have their ego bruised even if you have the best intentions, be generous, kind and loving but not in a patronizing way.
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