Always Trash Talking Yourself? Cut It Out! 3 Tips to Stop Negative Self-Talk & Start Loving Life by Amanda Hainline

2 years ago

Always Trash Talking Yourself? Cut It Out! 3 Tips to Stop Negative Self-Talk & Start Loving Life

We all do it, most of us without even realizing it. We walk around feeling like we aren’t good enough, thinking thoughts such as, “What’s wrong with me?” Negative self-talk can have toxic effects, making us more anxious, sad and stressed. But there are simple ways to nip it in the bud.

Among the problems with trash talking yourself is the risk of getting stuck in a cycle of negativity that can cause you to overlook the good and fixate on the bad. I used to beat myself up constantly. I didn’t realize that I was reinforcing negative things inside of me every time I did this. Thinking negatively was actually making me only see negative things in my life and was helping more negative things to happen.

How can we break out of this vicious cycle? Here's three tips to help break the cycle of negative self-talk:

  1. Be aware. You probably don’t even realize how hard you are on yourself. But this is the first step. Start to pay attention to how you think about yourself and the things you say.
  2. Evaluate your self-talk. Would you say the things to someone else that you say to yourself? If the answer is no, you probably shouldn’t say it to you either.
  3. Realize that what you are seeing and comparing yourself to in others is the best, not the worst. It’s easy for us to see some cute, pretty thing smiling on social media or a happy family all dressed in their Sunday best and assume they have it all together. I can almost guarantee they don’t. They have their crying and eating a package of cookies in a corner moments just like the rest of us.

Beyond that, how do we stop the negative self-talk? By addressing the root cause which lies in our energy system. Negative self-talk comes from energy system damage, namely traumas and hurtful verbal things that we start to accept as truth about ourselves.

When we start to heal the underlying causes and address the damage in the energy system, our self-talk starts to change. As this happens, we automatically start to think and feel different about ourselves. We feel better, act better and start to love ourselves more.

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Elisa Schmitz
This affects so many of us, Amanda Hainline . Thank you for sharing these great insights! Very helpful.
I am so guilty of this.
We need to silence our inner critic and get out of our own way. 🔥

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