Chronic Illness: Living Life As a Sick Person Who Doesn't Look Sick: How I Make It Work by Heather Holter

Chronic Illness: Living Life As a Sick Person Who Doesn't Look Sick: How I Make It Work

I have two invisible illnesses that affect my day-to-day life. Social anxiety and fibromyalgia. If I am not struggling mentally, it is likely I am struggling physically and vice versa. There are very few days I am not suffering from symptoms of one or both of my issues. It makes life hard, but also makes me realize my blessings when it is a good day.

Many people doubt if I am really sick, and others assume it must not be that bad because I do so much. I used to be very bothered that people just don't get it, but then I realized it doesn't matter if they get it or not. It is my issue to deal with and really makes no difference to my life and how I live it whether or not people understand my struggles.

How I do so much and make it through is out of necessity and has a lot to do with mindset. I try to only think of the task at hand and not the big long list of tasks ahead of me. I know if I thought that way I would be frozen with doubt over being able to complete all my tasks, and that I probably would not do any of it.

I also stopped telling people my struggles because sadly, if you don't look sick people doubt you, which is not helpful. Positive thinking and perseverance gets me through each day.

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"Positive thinking and perseverance gets me through each day." YES! Love this, Heather Holter ! You are so strong. Keep on being amazing. Thank you for all you share with us!
Tanya Kuzmanovic
great article, heather! the only way to reach "certain" people and get them to understand and relate to you - is through articles like this one!!!!
Katie Sloan
People can be so judgmental. Thank you for sharing this ~ many people will see this and realize they aren’t alone.
Joy Manuel
Thank you for sharing this, Heather. It's hard when it's an invisible illness. I also tend to overthink a lot, become anxious and am quite of an introvert. I'm sure these are not the same as what you go through but I can relate. I agree that sometimes, just taking it one step at a time, one task at a time and experimenting with saying 'yes' and pushing our boundaries little by little, really help.
It's nice to see myself in an article! I'll take your advice to heart! I'll try!
Shannon Richardson
I'm right there with you, Heather! Fibromyalgia, Ehlers-Danlos, and a bunch more. It is a struggle, isn't it? Thank you for writing. xoxo

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