Dealing With Hurt, Anger, Fear, Pain? 3 Steps to Help You Just Let It Go by Dr. Christina Hibbert

5 years ago

One of the most common questions I get as a psychologist is, "How do I let go? How do I let go of anger, hurt, fear, pain?" While it can be challenging to let go, there are a few things that can help:

  • Remember you don't actually want to carry around the heavy load you've been carrying.
  • Decide that you want to let it go.
  • Actively choose to let it go.

Each time it pops up throughout the day, remind yourself, "I don't need to carry this." Or, ask yourself, "What would it be like, what would I feel like, if I didn't care about this or I could just let this go?" Let yourself imagine the freedom you'd feel if you no longer had this burden. Then, choose to leave it behind.

Repeat as often as needed.

Morgan Hawthorne
I "let go" of toxic family that was weighing me down and making me feel horrible about myself and that was the best decision that I ever made! I feel lighter emotionally AND physically as I felt that I was even carrying a physical load. Thanks so much for the tip!!!!
Dr. Christina Hibbert
So important and so tough to do! Good for you! It is SUCH a load off when we can learn to let go. xoxo

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