Zentivity: Are You Mostly Love & Light, But Still Want to Deck Somebody Sometimes? Read This! Relationships

I recently got an email from a Zentivity.guru member telling me that she is a meditator, and she believes in all the mindfulness principles of a Zentivity™ lifestyle. They are:

• Connect with your creator.
• Know your true identity. 
• Nurture awareness. 
• Just breathe. 
• Respect.
• Gratitude. 
• Limit judgments. 
• Detach. 
• Communicate clearly. 
• Forgive quickly. 

But she is torn apart by the fact that every now and then, she just gets so angry that she just wants to smack someone. She was wondering what's wrong with her? Why does this one particular person really set her teeth on edge? Why can't she get a handle on her emotions?

My guess is you, the reader, might feel that way, too, sometimes.

You are not alone. Feelings are normal. We all have triggers that threaten to set us off. I experience negative feelings every day, too. Some people just have a talent for getting under your skin. They may never change. Stressors will always be around. We just don't have to be thrown off balance by them.

I do have to say that regular practice of these principles really do change your brain. They help you be less reactive. They help you see others from a more inclusive, compassionate perspective. They help you be calm and see things from different perspectives. They help you be more productive.

However, as long as you are human, you will experience feelings, reactions and triggers. What mindfulness principles do is keep you from being thrown into a tizzy from those reactions. They help you grow and learn better coping skills. What is important is what you do with those reactive thoughts, those triggers, those feelings. You learn to know your true identity, which is one of love, joy, peace, creativity, abundance and wisdom. Once you know that true identity, you learn to operate from that place more and more, making your world and the world around you happier, calmer and more productive. You become better at problem solving and, little by little, you begin to change the world.

There is no magic bullet that makes you non-human. These principles just make you better at bringing a bit more humanity to a world that is sorely in need of that. And the more of us that are operating from that place of wholeness, the better world we are creating.