Lawnmowers were designed to clear a path. When we do this for our teens, we are clearing a path that is free of obstacles, challenges and snares. While intentions are good, the lawnmower mows down the opportunities our teens need to learn how to navigate life on their own. Step away from the lawnmower when you feel the need to:
- Provide specific, step-by-step directions to make sure everything goes to (your) plan. This diminishes your teen's confidence.
- Advocate for your teen with their teachers. When you take the lead you send a message that they can’t handle it.
- Shielding your teen from chores. Chores teach kids responsibility and what it means to be part of a family.
- Run to the school for a missing lunch or gym clothes. These experiences will help teens learn to plan ahead and take responsibility for their own schedules and belongings.
It's hard to see our kids struggle, but it's in the struggle where they learn how to make decisions and apply consequential thinking. Now, go put that mower in the shed!!
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