The "No" Stage: 5 Ways to Get Toddlers to Consider More Than "No!" by Teacher Karen

Think of your typical toddler. You’ll hear a lot of NO to this, and NO to that, and how could you even suggest that … NO! YES, it’s their way of flexing their own autonomy, but it can be taxing, tiring and tedious for parents. How to get from NO to YES?

• Give options. "Would you like to wear your blue sweater or red sweater?" "Do you want an apple or orange slice?"

• Give attention. One of the most helpful phrases in preschool: "Tell me about _____." This tells them they are worthy of your time and attention and what they’re doing is also valued.

• Give consideration. Offering explanations of what, where, how, etc. YES, sometimes, in safety-related matters a full explanation isn’t appropriate, but when children understand the why behind a request they’re more likely to cooperate.

• Give control. "I need to do some work for your school, could you help me by ___." Everyone likes to feel useful!

• Give connections. Children want their parents’ time and attention. Connect with them – play, read, talk, just be together! Five to 10 minutes can make a huge difference, plus laying the groundwork now will also help later!