As parents, our first response to seeing our children struggle is to ask ourselves, “How can I make this easier?” While our intentions are good, this kind of thinking can actually be counterproductive. To prevent learned helplessness, children should be encouraged to push past their discomfort in order to solve problems. When they work through discomfort, they gain valuable skills, independence and confidence. Yes, even in failure! What can you say to encourage your problem solver?
- Tell me what you are trying to solve.
- Explain what you’ve done so far.
- What is your thought process?
Most importantly, praise your child for working hard, persevering and growing as a learner!