Life After Divorce: Thoughts are Powerful - Focus On the Positive! by Ingrid Echter

Our minds are powerful and loyal to us, finding evidence based on what we think and believe. We act on these beliefs, turning our thoughts into reality. So be careful what you’re thinking of! For example, you can think: 

a) I don’t want this woman to raise my child, and you’ll find plenty of evidence of why she is a horrible person.

b) This woman is a good influence in my child’s life in these areas… 

Neither her nor you have changed, but your future encounters and your child’s future will be affected according to your beliefs and what you focus on.