How to Spark Your Child's Independence: 3 Easy Ways to Start Molding Independent Kids by Dr. Lachlan Soper [inactive]

2 years ago

How to Spark Your Child's Independence: 3 Easy Ways to Start Molding Independent Kids

Sparking your child’s independence doesn’t mean having them make their own breakfast at age 5 (although it is possible for them to prepare cereal and milk at this age), but rather learning to think and act on their own appropriately. When showing your child how to be independent, you’re mostly teaching them to know they can be their own person and learn how to operate life without you. As most parents should understand, you will not always be there for them. For a child to be ready to take on life beyond living under your roof, it’s important to spark their independence.

1. Give Them Chores

An easy and convenient way to grow your child’s independence is by giving them household chores. This puts your child in charge of something which increases their sense of responsibility. When children are given responsibilities, it shows them that not everything in life is going to be taken care of by their parent or guardian. It also shows them that there will be responsibilities in life that will fall on them. Even if it is a chore as simple as unpacking their school bags, putting their clothes in the washing machine, hanging up and later on folding the clothes, bringing the rubbish bins in, vacuuming the floor, emptying the dishwasher, feeding the family pet or any other age-appropriate chore, it teaches them responsibility. Responsibility is an effective way to spark their independence.

2. Have Conversations With Them

Whether your child is an infant or is going off to university, it’s important to be talking to them. This gives your child a sense of presence and importance from infancy. By having an actual conversation with them from infancy, they come to understand that they are more than just some random being but rather an actual person.

3. Make Them in Charge of Their Siblings

If you have other children, a great way to help the oldest feel responsible and independent is by giving them some babysitting responsibilities. This doesn’t mean leaving them alone in the house for hours on end but instead telling them to hold their sibling’s hand when walking in public or coordinating games with them while you’re cooking dinner. By explaining to them how important it is to watch their younger sibling, it shows them that you trust them on their own.

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Elisa Schmitz
Great perspective, Dr. Lachlan Soper . So funny how times have changed so much. I was not only making my own cereal at age 5, but also walking to and from school on my own, etc. With my own kids, I couldn't have imagined them doing the things I did. Chores and caregiving are great ideas to start fostering growth and independence!
Talking to kids is everything...
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