Are You Raising a Narcissist? The Difference Between Praising & Encouraging Our Kids by Dr. Christina Hibbert

2 years ago

As a mom of six, I want to raise self-confident kids. But as a psychologist, I know there's a difference between praising kids and encouraging them.

  • Praise focuses on the outcome. "Wow! What a great job you did!" It's giving positive feedback about a result. But, overpraising is popular these days, and too many kids expect praise about everything they do.
  • Encouragement, on the other hand, focuses on the effort. "You worked so hard on that!" It's positive feedback about the process; the work it takes to stick with something. Encourage your kids; it will teach them hard work and self-confidence!

A Danish study actually claims that kids who think too highly of themselves because of unearned praise from their parents are more likely to develop a narcissist personality.

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Dieter Schmitz
Encouragement is a power tool!
Mike Prochaska
Love this and let them fail so
They learn how to get back up.
Wow, hadn’t thought of it like that. Great distinction!
Hadn’t thought of it like that. Great distinction!

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