Is Your Date Sweet or Psycho? DateShield App Helps Alert Women to Red Flags of Narcissism, Gaslighting & More When Dating by 30Seconds Mom

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2 years ago

DateShield is an app that uses questions developed with psychologists to help women assess if a date might not be as sweet as he seems. The app, which is available in the Apple Store, supports video dating as well as traditional dating.

Software developer Nigel Richards built the app after seeing the harm from an abusive relationship. "When someone close shocked me by revealing the gaslighting, belittling and other abuse she'd endured," he said. "I was relieved she was out of the relationship. But later, I was dismayed to learn she'd returned to the abuser. She was able to get away finally, but the experience exacted a huge toll. I decided to create an app to alert women to red flags when dating."

What the App Does

The DateShield app guides users through a multi-step process that includes:

  • Answering questions about their dates.
  • Journaling impressions of their dates.
  • Acting on to-do-list items and reminders to learn more about their dates.
  • Being alerted when disturbing characteristics are revealed.

Questions assess traits such as evasiveness/honesty, ghosting/reliability, coldness/empathy, contempt/respect and controlling behavior/healthy independence. After each assessment, the app adjusts a date rating dial based on the user's answers.

"I've seen a lot of women in private practice seek therapy following toxic and abusive relationships," said clinical psychologist Dr. Nicole El Marj. "Words cannot describe the pain and suffering that these women have endured and coming out of such relationships takes a lot of courage and strength. The questions in the app are absolutely on-point. I believe that this app can help individuals think twice before entering and fully investing in a potentially unhealthy relationship."

DateShield also enables users to easily alert trusted contacts and directly dial 911 if they feel threatened. The app can even share a physical description of the date and the street address. "The CDC estimates that one in five women in the U.S. has been seriously assaulted by an intimate partner. We believe that women deserve respect, safety and autonomy in their relationships, and we hope DateShield will contribute to that outcome."

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Elisa Schmitz
"The CDC estimates that one in five women in the U.S. has been seriously assaulted by an intimate partner." Horrifying but so very real. Many thanks for shedding light on issues too many women deal with. Good to see steps being taken to help!
How great is that.
Isabella Di Fabio
It is important to always be alert! and learn to recognize red flags to avoid toxic relationships

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