Coronalingus: Here Today, Where Tomorrow? Online Dating During the Coronavirus Pandemic by Heather Dugan

Relationships
2 months ago
Coronalingus: Here Today, Where Tomorrow? Online Dating During the Coronavirus Pandemic

As the coronavirus pandemic finish line wavers like a heat mirage on the distant horizon, singles have turned to dating apps and websites in increasing numbers. And why not? In normal times, it’s often the best route for relationship seekers. Now, when communicating interest requires fairly exaggerated and possibly confusing eyebrow wriggles over a masked face, it’s often the only way. Many of us singles are plodding through this pandemic like camels in a desert, searching for an oasis of human comfort. Forget the palm trees and pools of water. We need hugs.

Connection comes in many forms and dating apps can pave the way. Meaningful conversations. Physical and emotional intimacy. Eyes finding “home” from across a room. Our need to connect is real, but it can also be a real liability. For many, the extended isolation of 2020 has ratcheted need into neediness, a precarious perch from which one tends to grab for quick fixes, the space-fillers of life that still the echoes of an empty night.

For some coronalingus has appeared as that oasis of human comfort. You knew it first as sexting, but pandemic isolation created the fertile ground for this blend of banter and lusty foreplay to grow into an “everything but the kitchen sink” kind of event. And no guarantees on that sink. It’s a little wilder, a little less discriminating and creates liabilities that linger. When physical distance removes the immediate possibility of a good night kiss, boredom, the lack of real human contact and a couple glasses of wine may muffle inhibitions about skipping past the prelims entirely.

Should you? Shouldn’t you? Consider the following:

Within a committed relationship, you get to make up rules you can live with. Together. Maybe a little lusty language or some discreet photos stoke the engines. Or not. Your love relationship is your own private playground. It’s a safe place. And when you’re comfortable with your choices, confidence will always be the sexiest thing you can wear to bed.

But what about a dating app connection? For many singles, coronalingus amped up sex talk with or without descriptive pics and live video ­­– functions more as a tool of enticement or mirage substitute for an oasis that seems miles away at the moment. Coronalingus is often a tippy toe reach to connect and create a relationship from afar. Yes, affirmation, sexual pleasure these are good things. But in this context?

Yes, he or she may be a fine human being. They may delete or abstain from taking screen shots as promised. They may really intend to get to know your heart and mind, your quirks and the nuances of you in all your very human glory.

Or not.

It’s a bit like leaving keys in your parked car, granting indiscriminate access to something of great value. Maybe it will stay on your driveway. But someone, anyone, could easily take it somewhere else, out of sight and out of your control forever. You trust him or her? Great. But be smart. Don’t let your very natural need for connection disconnect you from future best options for yourself. Be your sensational self, not an unwitting internet sensation.

The content on 30Seconds.com is for informational and entertainment purposes only, and should not be considered medical advice. The information on this site should not be used to diagnose or treat a health problem or disease, and is not a substitute for professional care. Always consult your personal healthcare provider. The opinions or views expressed on 30Seconds.com do not necessarily represent those of 30Seconds or any of its employees, corporate partners or affiliates.

Take 30 seconds and join the 30Seconds community. Inspire and be inspired.

Related Products on Amazon We Think You May Like:

30Second Mobile, Inc. is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for us to earn fees by linking to Amazon.com and affiliated sites.

Marriage & the Coronavirus Pandemic: 11 Tricks That Are Saving Relationships During Quarantine

Intentional Marriage: 5 Ways to Strengthen Your Relationship During Coronavirus Quarantine

bepositive
Wow, this is fascinating! 😍
Heather Dugan
bepositive It truly is! We're social creatures navigating a very unnatural set of circumstances. We lose perspective when isolated (isolation actually affects our thinking and processing abilities). It's important to identify the decisions we're making in real time!
Elisa A. Schmitz 30Seconds
So much to think about during these digital dating times! I can see how the pandemic has made this much more urgent as people people more desperate for human interaction. Many thanks for sharing these insights with us, Heather Dugan . Welcome to 30Seconds. We look forward to learning more from you!
Heather Dugan
Thanks for the welcoming words @elisa. Yes, this pandemic is the squeeze we didn't need, emotionally speaking! Isolation was already a big issue; our ambiguous timeline has made it a painful situation for many.
Julie Rose
So true, take a pause, don’t do things you might regret!

join discussion

Please login to comment.

recommended tips

Got 30 seconds? Sign up for 30Seconds.com and get the best of our tips each week!