Parents: Wondering How You’ll Survive the Tween & Teen Years? Try to Focus on This... by Ann Marie Gardinier Halstead

Parents: Wondering How You’ll Survive the Tween & Teen Years? Try to Focus on This...

If you have a teen or tween, you are no doubt familiar with the eye rolling, attitude and head shaking, all directed at you and your perfectly idiotic statements. I bet you’d give anything for a toothless, drooling grin some days. Or perhaps you long for the time when your toddler experienced true joy when playing with dirt (dirt!) because that once-happy-silly creature now spends time brooding for seemingly no reason. Or maybe you long for the time when your kindergartener just wouldn’t stop talking because that one-time chatterbox hardly says a word lately. Maybe you just miss the days of unlimited love and affection, a sign that your child was happy, that you were her favorite person on the planet, that all was right with the world.

I get it. I miss the cuddles and grins and adoration, and affirmation that I’m doing something right. But you know what I’ve come to learn? It’s all still there. I just get it in smaller doses and in different forms. My son is that same sweet, cuddly, funny, loving little person. He’s just going through all the stages he needs to go through to get to adulthood (gulp). I just need to remember that and focus on the good.

A couple of weeks ago we were shopping at an outdoor vendor fair. My 12-year-old had five dollars of his own money to spend. He was about to make a purchase when he abruptly walked away from us and up to a homeless man. He handed the man something and came back. I asked him what he gave him. “Some money.” He shrugged it off. “How much?” I asked. “Five dollars. I figured he needed it more than I did.” That was my sign. That was my toothless grin, chatterbox and dirt all rolled into one. 

All is right with the world.

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Elisa All Schmitz 30Seconds
"It's all still there. I just get it in smaller doses and in different forms." This got me all choked up, Ann Marie Gardinier Halstead . With so many teenagers around me, this is important to remember. THANK YOU for sharing what's in your heart. It really helps me with what's in mine. xoxo
Ann Marie Gardinier Halstead
You know about this more than anyone, with all the teens in your life, Elisa All Schmitz 30Seconds ! Thank you for your kind words.
Ann Marie Gardinier Halstead
Sheryl Gould : I know you'll be able to relate to this one! :)
Mike Prochaska
Ugh not ready at all. Glad I have time
Ann Marie Gardinier Halstead
It goes so fast. Can't believe my son is in middle school, Mike Prochaska !
Kathy Ast-Kutzbach
What a sweet story! Thanks for sharing. The teen and tween years are hard.
Ann Marie Gardinier Halstead
Thank you, Kathy Ast-Kutzbach . Yes, they are! Trying to focus on the good.
Katie Sloan
It’s that type of moment when you suddenly realize that your child was listening and watching all along! ❤️

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