Friends or Parents? Why a Parenting Friend Zone Is a Parenting Danger Zone by Tanya Kuzmanovic

Opinion Parenting
6 months ago
Friends or Parents? Why a Parenting Friend Zone Is a Parenting Danger Zone

I have an obligation to my kids – to feed, house and love them. As a parent, I also wear the hat of maid, chauffeur, chef and personal shopper … but a friend? This is where I draw the line.

It is up to us as parents to help instruct, guide and nurture our kids, to help them learn how to be a good friend to others and to surround themselves with positive friendships. But there is a sense of power within this role not to be found in a typical friendship. If these particular lessons come from friends, it can breed resentment.

The teen years are when this subtle shift from parent to friend are most likely to occur. Kids test boundaries, put negotiation skills to work and begin to compare their own boring lives to those of their exciting friends. At this point in time, being a friend as opposed to a parent can seem like the easier path. It will mean not having to lay down the law nor hear unkind words directed at you. But is it the right way?

In my own experience, parenting has never meant taking the simple or easy way. Our kids will hopefully have a lifetime filled with many friendships, but if they are lucky, only two parents.

Parenting Different Personalities in Kids: 3 Ways to Encourage Your Kids' Uniqueness & Interests!

Not Sure You're Getting This Parenting Thing "Right?" You Need to Read This!

Want the Best Parenting Advice You'll Ever Receive? Watch This!

Helicopter Parenting May Cause Problems for Kids (a Must Read)!

Elisa All Schmitz 30Seconds
Well said, Tanya Kuzmanovic ! You're right, sometimes being a friend is easier than being a parent. It's a tough job, but it has to be done. Thank you for sharing this!

join discussion

Please login to comment.

recommended tips

First Friends: 7 Tips to Help Parents Teach Kids How to Be a Good Friend!

Back-to-School Reflections: If Nurses Don’t Buy Medical Supplies, Why Should Teachers Buy School Supplies?

"But Mom, All My Friends Have One!" What's a Parent to Do? Try This!

Families of College Freshmen As You Bring Your Student to Campus: A Letter From the Staff

Got 30 seconds? Sign up for 30Seconds.com and get the best of our tips each week!