New Year's Resolutions: Here's a Beauty Revolution for 2020 (No Apologies!) by Eva DeVirgilis

4 years ago
New Year's Resolutions: Here's a Beauty Revolution for 2020 (No Apologies!)

“Sorry, I know, I look like crap.” If you’ve said these words recently, I respectfully request that you ... knock it off.

For the past 10 years, I have noticed a devastating pattern: within the first three seconds of sitting in my makeup chair, almost every woman apologizes for the way she looks. I’ve heard clients utter the above phrase about themselves more times than I can count. I didn’t see my clients’ “flaws.” I saw beautiful, complex, accomplished women.

But here’s the thing, I’ve said it about myself, too. Any time someone gave me a compliment, my first reaction was to make a self-deprecating joke. So, I became determined to kick the habit and decided to turn my makeup chair into an "apology-free zone." (See my sign below.) It worked. It was the perfect little reminder for my clients and me.

The takeaway? Something as simple as a Post-it® note, a knowing nudge to a friend or a text to yourself may be the boost we need to rid the planet of negative self-talk in 2019. This year I’m once again renewing my “No Apology Revolution.” When the urge to criticize myself or my looks arises, I’m going to respectfully remind myself to knock it off.

Won’t you join me?

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Ann Marie Patitucci
I LOVE this, Eva DeVirgilis ! What an important revolution for 2018. I'm in! Welcome to the tribe!
Eva DeVirgilis
Thanks Anne Marie! Here's to an amazing New Year!
Elisa A. Schmitz 30Seconds
You said it, Eva DeVirgilis ! Wow, I do this all the time. (Just ask Jan Mostrom , LOL!) We women really need to knock it off! Thank you for this great first post. I am with you. Welcome to our #30Seconds tribe. I look forward to learning and growing with you!! :-) #noapologies
Eva DeVirgilis
So glad you're with me Elisa!!
Meredith Schneider
Oh my goodness Eva DeVirgilis , I'm guilty for saying, "I look like crap." too! We are our own worst critics and need to back off ourselves. Welcome, Welcome to this awesome #30Seconds tribe! xoxo #noapologies
Eva DeVirgilis
Trust me, I'm talking to myself here! But no more in 2018! Happy New Year Meredith!
Ann Marie Patitucci
Yay to #noapologies in 2018, friends!

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