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#30Seconds In-Depth: Reduce the Chaos, Stress & Discontent in Your Life With Marianne Clyde! by Nicole DeAvilla

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#30Seconds In-Depth: Reduce the Chaos, Stress & Discontent in Your Life With Marianne Clyde!

Who doesn’t have some stress in their life? At this week's #30Seconds Twitter chat, we welcomed 30Seconds contributor, Marianne Clyde, a licensed therapist, relationship expert, author, speaker, empowerment coach and author of "Zentivity," to share tips on how to get a handle on chaos, stress and discontent – even when you feel too busy or don’t know where to start. And with the holiday season fast approaching, these tips were just in time! 

Q: So, is it really possible to eliminate chaos, stress and discontent?

Absolutely, but you must remember that the answer is inside of you. Stressful events will continue to happen. It’s just part of life. So it’s important to realize that it’s completely dependent on our thoughts about the stressful event. We must learn to develop a strong internal locus of control.

Q: How do we develop that strong internal locus of control?

We need to remember that what we focus on increases. So if we focus on denial, negativity, anger or external stressors, that will loom large in our minds. We need to focus on where we want to go and how we want to be by asking powerful questions like, "What can I do now?" If we focus on solutions instead of fear and panic we continue to move forward.

Q: Your book “Zentivity” focuses on 10 principles. How do they help?

The very first thing we must do is principle 1 of Zentivity. Connect with the creator through meditation. That connection keeps us grounded, develops strong roots and strengthens our personal identity. Knowing our true identity is vital to keep from getting thrown off balance. This is principle 2 of Zentivity. Your true nature comes from “all that is” love, joy, peace, wisdom, creativity and abundance. Operating from that place is when you are your most powerful.

Q: How is it possible to establish a meditation practice when we are so busy?

Do what you can. Breathe in and out deeply for five to 10 minutes each morning. Work your way up in time. Sit outside in nature for a few minutes. Good mantra is, “I am whole perfect and complete.” If you only have two minutes in the shower, or at a stoplight, use that. The key is consistency. Same place same focus, every day. It changes your brain.

Q: What are some other ways to control our reactions to stress and chaos?

These principles build on each other. Meditation and awareness of self and others are foundational. My favorite is principle 4 of Zentivity – just breathe. It helps you think more clearly. Deep breathing enables you to respond instead of react. It gives you a second to collect your thoughts. Detach from the drama is principle 8. Breathe and detach. Don’t get sucked in.

Q: It sounds easier than it is. How can we respond calmly when we get triggered?

Getting triggered is a normal human reaction. You must learn to notice when that happens. All emotions are normal and can be healthy, but we must learn to control them. Notice. Feel. Then choose a new thought. Don’t stuff or ignore feelings. Our power comes in recognizing that we can choose our thoughts. When we choose a healthier more stable thought, our emotions change and calm down.

Q: What are some of the other principles of Zentivity?

Practicing gratitude. Principle 6 of Zentivity also changes your brain. Calms the stress center. Respect, communicate clearly, non-judgment are all principles of the Zentivity lifestyle. Forgive quickly is principle 10 of Zentivity. Letting resentments go is good for your health. Stress hormones constantly released in the body can make you sick physically and mentally.

Q: It sounds like there is a lot to remember. How do we learn more?

You’re right. The principles of Zentivity are simple but they must become a lifestyle to work. is a membership site that enables leaders to get support for healthy thinking. (Sign up for a free gift!) We need to remember that we are all leaders. It’s important to support one another. 

Be sure to follow @MarianneClydeLMFT, visit Marianne’s Facebook page, check out and, and see her 30Seconds tips!

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Marianne Clyde
It's gong to be a lot of fun! #Joinus
Nicole DeAvilla
I am looking forward to hearing how yo do this and how we can too! So happy to have you as our guest Marianne.
Elisa Schmitz
Excited to chat with you, Marianne Clyde , and looking forward to learning from you! Hope to see all of our amazing community members for this chat! Donna John Nicole DeAvilla Ann Marie Gardinier Halstead Kim Kusiciel Holly Budde Meredith Schneider Chef Gigi Gaggero Pam McCormick Toni B TONIA L.CLARK Kristy Dominiak sherry bracy Sheryl Gould Cheryl Leahy Kelli Schulte Mindy Hudon, M.S., CCC-SLP Jan Mostrom Jane Cabrera Samantha Kemp-Jackson Laurieann Janssens Laurie Balles Simpson Jeannine Jeannie Greener MrsTaylor2U Stacey Roberts Mike Prochaska Amanda Amanda Heyser Ashlee Benest Ashley Pontious Ashley Massey Kathy Shimmield Kathy Ast-Kutzbach Stacie Ast-Kutzbach Stacy Draeger-Brogan Stacey Freeland Stacey Artz lorri langmaid Lorri Langmaid Lori Leal Tiffany C Tiffany Anne Tiffany Zook Adeline Benovil Adeline Benovil SillySheep Tamara O'Shaughnessy Dr. Shayna Mancuso Sharon Sharon PingPing Lauren Harris-Pincus sonlight00 Sonia Satra Sandy VanBuskirk Sandy Greiner, PMA-CPT Susan Campbell Cross Hustle N Glow Gail Gedan Spencer ✈️It's Just Me✈️ Correy Kustin Margaret Steck Margaret McSweeney Mei Marcie Kat McQuaid Andrea Hinckley Amber DePaolo Amber Chandler Amber Cheras Alex Bryant Tommy FRIEND Geraci Beth Aldrich, CHC, AADP, CNT Carrie Beth Beth Engelman joell51868 melinda Melinda Sutton Melinda Raquel Masco Kimberly Angie Mozilo @flipflop_mommy Kathline Arce Cheyenne&HuntersMama Mommaofboys33 Kim Kleeman 4WEALTHFG Jennifer Young Jennifer Kloch-Davis Jennifer Essad Maria Koshechkina Ann Poyer Christie Gosch Christine Jones Mary Hennessee Laurel Smith jennah jackson Jenna Lee Candace Curtis Candace Reid Mitchell Barney Rachell Montgomery Rachel Markwood Rachel W. Lewter vidya P astronaut~momma Ashley Pontious Dawn Lantero Dr. Christina Hibbert
Stacey Freeland
Getting tips on how to stay stress free, especially with the holiday season fast approaching? Sounds like a party I just can't miss :)
Meredith Schneider
Oh Marianne Clyde, can’t wait! This #momof4 could use some stress release.
Nicole DeAvilla
See you this evening! xo
Toni B
Sounds like a great topic---see everyone tonight
Nicole DeAvilla
It is! See you tonight!
Marianne Clyde
Have your questions ready ;-) I'm a mom/step mom to 8 and grandma to 13 plus 2 on the way. Own my own business and am on a bunch of non profit I get it ;-)
Nicole DeAvilla
Wow! That is a lot. Looking forward to your wisdom tonight.
Ann Marie Patitucci
We can all benefit from reducing stress & chaos!!
Nicole DeAvilla
You can say that again! :)
Rachel W. Lewter
Y'all know I'll take all the advice I can get. This should be fun.
Nicole DeAvilla
P.S. Did you figure out how to submit a tip yet?
Rachel W. Lewter
If I don't get more followers on Twitter, I can't follow anyone else.
sherry bracy
Whats ur twitter name and Ill follow you to help you out! :) Mine is sherry bracy
Marianne Clyde
Thanks everyone for a great conversation!

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