Marriage Stress: Couples Weather Bickering With a Little Help From Their Friends by Donna John

Relationships
a year ago
Marriage Stress: Couples Weather Bickering With a Little Help From Their Friends

Every couple has conflict, and research finds that having good friends and family members to turn to alleviates the stress of everyday conflict between partners. In fact, according to the study led by The University of Texas at Austin’s Lisa Neff, social networks may help provide protection against health problems brought about by ordinary tension between spouses.

In a paper published in the online edition of Social Psychological and Personality Science, Neff and other researchers in UT Austin’s Department of Human Development and Family Sciences found that “spouses who reported being more satisfied with the availability of friends and family, whom they knew they could connect with during times of marital conflict, experienced conflict as less physiologically stressful.”

The paper is the first to look at the link between spouses’ cortisol levels, which are an indicator of physiological stress, and marital conflicts occurring in the home. At a time when more couples in the U.S. are living in communities separate from where their families and friends reside, the research suggests there is a strong correlation between relationships like these outside of a marriage and people within the marriage experiencing lower risk factors for health problems such as weight gaininsomniadepression and even heart disease.

“We found that having a satisfying social network buffers spouses from the harmful physiological effects of everyday marital conflicts,” said Neff. “Maintaining a few good friends is important to weathering the storms of your marriage.”

Even everyday conflict takes a toll on people physiologically, Neff said. “But we found that the association between marital conflict and cortisol responses completely disappears when people are happy and satisfied with their available social network.” Read more about the importance of good friends

Photo: "Bad selfie" in Italy of Donna Lynn John with friend and 30Seconds tribe member Gina Jackson-Holliday

Elisa All Schmitz 30Seconds
Great info and great photo, Donna John ! 😀😀
Donna John
Gina Jackson-Holliday take "bad selfies" all the time. It's our thing. :-) Yes, this is great information to know. Scary what stress of any kind can do to our bodies. Gotta have those friends close by!
Barb Desmarais
No matter what you're going through, having a strong, supportive social network, helps enormously. I speak from experience.
Elisa All Schmitz 30Seconds
You are so strong, Barb Desmarais ! Thank you for all you share with us! xoxo

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