How a Village of Mothers Saved Me & the Future of My Children by Angela Borneman
I did not have a conventional mother. This made for colorful memories, some humorous, many tragic. She "did the best she could," but as my therapist countered: "Maybe so. But it still wasn't good enough." (Thank GOD someone said that, and said it was OK to say that.) But God saw fit to provide me with a multitude of mothers over the years. I have been mothered by:
- gay men
- women in 12-step programs
- a life coach
- my husband's mother
- my sister who is 11 years my junior
- my sister's mother-in-law
- Louise Hay
- mommy communities
- countless friends
Because of them, I am not a perfect mom to my own children, but I AM a REALLY good one. My children will never know the kind of deficit I experienced. And I am my OWN MOTHER now. Where I exist now is both a soft and empowering place. And since the debt I owe to all those who have mothered me (and continue to!) into this place cannot be repaid, I pay it forward at every opportunity I am able.
Thank you to ALL OF YOU who MOTHER.
You are ALL PRICELESS.