Have We Created a Generation of Entitled Kids? Probably, But It’s Not Too Late to Change Them! by Donna John
Why do so many children today believe they should have anything they want without having to make an effort to get it? According to Richard Watts, author of "ENTITLEMANIA: How Not to Spoil Your Kids and What to Do if You Have," the blame for this epidemic of entitlement should be placed squarely on parents’ shoulders. “Well-meaning parents often weaken their children by overindulging them and over-managing their lives,” explains Watts. “But by doing so, we are also stealing from them. We’re stealing the strength and confidence that is forged when they successfully overcome a struggle or challenge.” Here are some tips from Watts:
- Break the Codependency – Take care of YOU first! By constantly stepping in to “rescue” your child, you are enabling immaturity, irresponsibility and underachievement.
- Delay Gratification – If you give in to your children’s demands immediately, they begin to expect that as the normal course of events. “The best thing you can do, by far, is model self-discipline yourself,” explains Watts.
- Let Your Kids Struggle – Today’s parents tend to hover and overprotect. Recalling the many life lessons he learned on his own, Watts urges parents to allow their children to struggle when there is a lesson to be learned or personal growth to be had.
- Give Memories Instead of Things – Most parents want to give their children “the best things money can buy.” Watts contends that the best gifts are good experiences that are so memorable that they last a lifetime.
- Wield the “Grandparent Weapon” – “Grandparents have a lifetime of experience and have survived setbacks and failures. Their wisdom can be a calming, credible and secure resource for your children,” Watts explains.
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