Emotional Regulation: How to Help Your Kids Cope With Their Feelings! by Mindy Hudon, M.S., CCC-SLP

Tip of the Day Parenting
10 months ago
Emotional Regulation: How to Help Your Kids Cope With Their Feelings!

Helping children to regulate their emotions means more than anger management. Teaching emotional regulation helps kids learn to cope with their feelings. Research suggests that improved emotional regulation assists children throughout their lives. Kids who can regulate emotions may improve their ability to pay attention, be more successful in school, resolve conflicts, decrease stress and be more caring towards friends. Teach your child to:  

  • Talk about their emotions like worry, fear, disappointment, anger and over excitement. 
  • Think reasonably about their emotions and how to cope and calm themselves. 
  • Know that it’s OK to have feelings, but not to feel overwhelmed by them. 
  • Model how to express, reason and cope. Showing rather than telling can be a powerful teaching tool.

Here are some resources to help:

The Feelings Book
The Feelings Book $5
Kid-friendly illustrations portray children expressing all different moods, from "I feel very mad" and "I feel like reading books all day" to "I feel like wearing funny underwear."
In My Heart: A Book of Feelings (Growing Hearts)
In My Heart: A Book of Feelings (Growing Hearts) $12
With language that is lyrical but also direct, toddlers will be empowered by this new vocabulary and able to practice articulating and identifying their own emotions.
Understanding Myself: A Kid's Guide to Intense Emotions & Strong Feelings
Understanding Myself: A Kid's Guide to Intense Emotions & Strong Feelings $10
A self-help guide for kids to understand and manage their strong emotions.
When I Feel Angry (Way I Feel Books)
When I Feel Angry (Way I Feel Books) $7
Anger is a scary emotion for young children, their parents and caregivers. As this little bunny experiences the things that make her angry, she also learns ways to deal with her anger -- in ways that won't hurt others.
Kelli Schulte
This is so important @mindy. Sometimes life is so busy and complicated that we breeze by how we feel. So important to our health and wellness to take a pause and pay attention to our feelings and help our kids do the same! Thanks for the great tip!
Mindy Hudon, M.S., CCC-SLP
Thanks. I agree! I think we sometimes don't realize that we expect our children to understand how to understand their own emotions. Most children don't understand emotions beyond "happy" and "sad."

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