Want to Stop Arguing With Your Teen? Try This 1-2-3 Approach! by Kelli Schulte
You know the drill. Teen walks in door. You start asking questions. They answer. You react. You argue. The next time, try this approach:
- STOP. Catch yourself before you react and stop. Pay attention to your breathing. Count to 10.
- LISTEN. Don’t say anything. What is being said? What is not being said? Pay attention to how your teen might be feeling in the moment. What is going on? What is important right now? Why is this so important right now?
- CONNECT. What are they experiencing right now? How can you connect to that?
Teen stress is growing at a ridiculous rate. And teens can choose some pretty extreme things to manage stress. Listening and connecting with your teen is one of the best anecdotes you can offer to combat the ill effects of stress.