Parenting Anxious Kids: 3 Ways to Help Your Child With Their Childhood Anxiety by Dr. Lachlan Soper [inactive]

Parenting Anxious Kids: 3 Ways to Help Your Child With Their Childhood Anxiety

Having an anxious child can certainly come with its challenges, but it’s important to help your child with their anxiety. When left untreated, their childhood anxiety can impact both their physical and emotional health. This can cause long-term effects well into their adulthood.

If you’re struggling to help your child or adolescent cope with anxiety, the following tips can be helpful:

  • Eliminating vs. Managing: The best way to help your child in the long run with their anxiety is to teach them to manage their anxiety, not eliminate what makes them feel anxious. As a parent, we tend to do all we can to make sure our child is happy, but sometimes this desire can lead to enabling them. By eliminating what makes them anxious, you’re not allowing them to learn how to deal with it. Eliminating teaches them that what makes them anxious simply goes away, which is simply not true. Teaching them to manage their anxiety will allow them to learn how to tolerate and adapt.
  • Validate Their Fears: Telling your child “there’s nothing to be afraid of” is not as helpful as you believe it be. Fear can be very useful – it is healthy to have fear when approaching the edge of a cliff! Saying things such as this leaves them feeling invalidated for being anxious. It’s essential to validate your child’s fears by understanding that their fear is real and not irrational. Tell them that you understand that they’re feeling anxious and then help them to get to the root of their anxiousness. When your child knows that you respect their fears and why they’re feeling anxious, they’ll be much more comfortable letting you help them face those fears in the future.
  • Develop Strategies: Although most parents don’t like to hear this: you can’t always be there for your child. Especially for children with anxiety, it’s imperative to help them develop coping strategies for when you’re not there to help them. Helpful strategies for when they’re feeling anxious can be breathing exercises or finding calming activities such as listening to musicwriting and learning to focus on other things to reduce the intensity of their anxiety.

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Anxiety in kids is like an epidemic. 💔
Elisa Schmitz
I can't think of a more anxiety-laden time in the world than right now. Many thanks for sharing your important insights with us, Dr. Lachlan Soper !
Letting kids know they are not alone, and that it will be OK, that really helps...
Julio Caro
Thanks For Sharing..

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