Ready for a Better New Year? Try These 5 Mindful New Year’s Resolutions for a Happier 2021 by Julie Potiker

11 months ago
Ready for a Better New Year? Try These 5 Mindful New Year’s Resolutions for a Happier 2021

The year 2020 was crazy, and who knows what 2021 will bring? Here are five tips you can use to thrive even amid life's chaos in the New Year: 

1. Allow Yourself to H.E.A.L.

In 2021, turn your focus toward experiencing the fullness of every beautiful, joyful, silly, fun or wonderful experience you have. Use the H.E.A.L. method, originally created by neuroscientist Rick Hanson

  • Have a good experience. 
  • Enrich it to install it. 
  • Absorb it as if you are filling your body up with the good feeling of the experience. 
  • Link positive and negative material.

For the “link” step, you can do this in the moment by recalling something painful or upsetting and allowing the pleasant feelings of the present moment to replace those old feelings. You can also use this step any time you feel frustrated, upset or angry. Call upon a positive experience you’ve installed in your brain and use it as a mindful focal point rather than ruminating on the other unwanted feelings.

2. Label Negative Emotions

Practice R.A.I.N. When you experience anger, frustration, sadness or any other negative emotion, recognize it by saying, “Oh, that’s anger (or whatever the emotion is) coming up right now.” The mere mention of the emotion calms down the brain. Then allow it to be there for a few moments while you gently investigate why it’s there. Finally, nourish yourself by looking inward and asking what you need to hear or do right now to help yourself feel better.

3. Do What Gives You Joy

Life is full of emotional chaos, but bringing it back to focused activities that give joy to your soul can mean the difference between making or breaking it day to day, year to year. Take a few minutes to write down a list of everything you can think of that brings you joy – little things and big things alike – then commit to doing one thing from that list every day.

4. Get Grounded

When you feel anxiety ramping up, focus your attention downward and feel your feet on the floor. Breathe deeply, keeping your focus on the sensation of your feet (bare, in socks or shoes, whatever – feel it all, just as it is) on the floor. This is an instant tool to break the cycle of anxiety.

5. Transform Suffering Into Love (Tonglen)

When you experience suffering – whether from a personal tragedy, a global event or anything in between – use the Receiving-Sending meditation to transform that suffering into love. Breathe in the pain and sorrow; breathe out love and compassion. Breathe in the suffering; breathe out peace.

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Elisa A. Schmitz 30Seconds
This is wonderful insights, as always, Julie Potiker . I especially love your point to do what brings you joy because, really, we have to. These times are quite discouraging and we need to find happiness where we can. Thank you for all you share with us!
Very empowering, especially to kick off the new year, thanks.

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