Dads: Don't Play Enough With Your Kids? Here's Something to Think About! by Abraham Alarcon
I don’t play enough with my kids. Why? Because:
A. I am doing my own thing.
B. I am too busy working.
C. I don’t like what they are asking me to play.
D. I am too tired.
E. I am too lazy to play.
F. All of the above.
My choice is letter F. And this happens because it all comes down to choice. I choose not to play with them and that’s the bottom line. No, I am not being hard on myself; just direct. Dads have no excuse in the world to not play with their children.
Look at the first word in all the options from A through E – they all begin with the letter “I." And let me say that when your child asks you, “Papi (Spanish for Daddy), can you play with me?” She or he is thinking of getting away from the “I” and engaging you into a “we.” Children thrive in relationships. Play is one powerful way they build these lifelong relationships with caregivers and siblings.
Too often, dads like me want to do and accomplish a lot so we can provide for our family, secure their future and create a safe and loving home. Dads dedicate lots of time to their professional work and future endeavors and, because of this, they may miss key milestones in their children’s lives.
Maybe it's time to set aside some time to play?