Long Hair: Is It a Security Blanket or Fashion Statement? Share Your Thoughts! by Terri Jones

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3 months ago
Long Hair: Is It a Security Blanket or Fashion Statement? Share Your Thoughts!

Throughout my life, while other women had their hair in French braids and banana clips, blown out, layered and flat-ironed, I was always “the girl with the short hair.” To me, long hair wasn’t so much a style as a security blanket. In a sea of carbon-copy manes, I held my cropped head high.

Although I felt superior to this homogenous group, I also felt set apart. By not having hair that I could toss or twirl, I began to feel short an “X” chromosome. So, when I turned 40, I decided to see what I had been missing. 

For about two years, I endured bangs that hung like a curtain over my eyes, broken ends, uneven layers and an uncontrollable urge to chop it all off! By 42, I was finally able to gather my hair into the stubbiest of Olive Oyl ponytails. I was proud.

My final trim, when I finally had “long” hair, felt like some weird rite of passage. But as I entered my 50s, my long hair began to feel like a desperate attempt to hang onto my youth. Slowly, I’ve cut my hair shorter and shorter again.

In a meeting yesterday, I was surrounded by a table full of long-haired women. I realized that I didn’t feel different, I felt distinctive. And suddenly like myself again!

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Donna John
How funny. I just asked the woman who cuts my hair last week when do most women start getting their hair cut shorter. I will turn 50 in September. So I'm not the only one who thinks about things like that. :) You are gorgeous and would look good with any length hair, but it's important to do what makes YOU feel good. I had the "mom cut" until I went through a divorce in 2004. Immediately started growing it out and it's been long ever since. (Revenge hair??) ;-) I am starting to think about going shorter ... one day.
Terri Jones
Someone told me once that you're too old for long hair if you get a lot of looks from men following you, but when you turn around, they're suddenly not interested. ;)
Elisa All Schmitz 30Seconds
This is so great and timely for me! I love your hair length, Terri Jones . To me, it's not really "short hair." It's more medium hair. I currently have medium-to-long hair, and I like it. I used to have even longer hair. I'll never forget when I cut it to medium length, came home from the salon and my daughters both burst into tears! They wanted my long hair back. It feels like part of who I am, yet the medium length is way easier and more practical. Thank you for this food for thought!
Somér Natural
I love the length of your hair and how it sculpts your beautiful face! Mid to long-length hair, worn up, down or wild seems more like a mood to me. What's great about having mid-length is you can dress up, down, casual or cover it with a hat. Both are versatile for any occasion. The combination of any length of hair with healthy-looking skin is gorgeous at any age. Thank you for your article!

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